Would you like to see Baby Hanumana modeling for diapers? Are Actors and Models so expensive that advertisers have to consider God and Goddess for advertisement of a product?The answers to these Questions is definitely ' NO '.
It is my duty to throw light on page No-24 of 14 December 2006 edition of JAM MAGAZINE.
On this page there is an ad where there is a photograph of Lord Shiva’s Shivling beneath which it is written " khada Hai to Condom Hai" .This ad was in Support of WORLD’S AIDS DAY. No doubt the cause of ad was GOOD but the concept of ad is WORST.There could be better ad to support WORLD AIDS DAY, isn't it? In my opinion there could be an ad like this where write up like bellow is written in the center of the magazine’s page
ONE IS RELIGIOUS NOT JUST BY
Offering Flowers to God
Observing Fasts on Certain days
Giving Charity to the poor
Chanting Mantras of God
Visiting Temples, Mosque or Church
But also by remaining truthful and Committed to his or her Spouse throughout life.
I am not at all saying any-thing against JAM magazine. In fact it is very informative but In my opinion ad like this should not be encouraged because GOD is GOD.
WHY ' LIVE-IN-RELATIONSHP ' ?
Marriage is a social Institution which is accepted by most of the societies in the world. However there are few societies which accept ' Live In Relation ' . In European countries ' Live In Relationships ' are very common. Two people of opposite gender freely live under one roof , they share their emotions , satisfy sexual urges and even give birth to child without getting married.In India and other Asian countries Live In Relationships are not socially accepted but still there are individuals who choose this type of relationship.
Couples who love each other but lack commitment prefer ' Live In Relation ' . According to Psychologist Robert Sternberg Love between a couple ,has three components , Commitment , Intimacy and Passion . Couples who lack Commitment component in their love and only experience strong feeling of Intimacy and Passion , Choose Live in Relationship. Commitment is a major component of love. It is responsible for long lasting relationship and sincerity between couples. When Commitment is not present marriage breaks. Thus a major difference between Marriage and Live in Relation is that married couples have commitment and couples living in Live in relation lack commitment. However it is possible that Live in Relationship couples experience commitment later in their relation and wish to marry each other.
Now it is important to know that , why some individuals lack commitment component in their love ? It has been seen that children whose parents got separated by divorce , develop a feeling that marriage is not good , it only gives tension , pain , conflicts & grief. As they grow up their negative feeling towards marriage become stronger . When such individuals fall in love with some one, although they want to live with that person( the person whom they start loving ) but their past experience & negative feelings towards marriage do not allow them to commit for marriage. So they choose ' Live in Relationship ' as such individual experience very strong feeling of Intimacy & Passion towards the person they love. Another reason is children who have been brought up in families where there have been lot of extra marital affairs or in other words one or both parents of child have love affairs with other individuals & therefore the child has not seen the commitment part of love between his or her parents . Such children when grow up do not want to go for a committed relation like marriage. Peer influence to some extent also responsible for ' Live in relation '.
Live in relationship couples face problems , when one of the partner start feeling commitment in love & other does not. At this moment the partner wishes to marry but the other partner refuses & forces to continue living together without marriage. Conflict arises which eventually leads to break ups & emotional distress . Since ' Live in Relation ' does not have any legal implication the female cannot expect for any money or property from the male.Also children born to such couples are not considered legal . So they too have a dark future as they will be brought up by single parent & there are chances that the child will too lack commitment component of love when he or she will grew up.' Live In Relation ' do not last for very long time either it ends up in marriage or permanent separation of the couples but mostly it ends up with separation.
Thus in a nut shell ' Live in Relation ' have short life span as the commitment component of love is missing . Commitment between couples is very essential for a lasting relation.
Couples who love each other but lack commitment prefer ' Live In Relation ' . According to Psychologist Robert Sternberg Love between a couple ,has three components , Commitment , Intimacy and Passion . Couples who lack Commitment component in their love and only experience strong feeling of Intimacy and Passion , Choose Live in Relationship. Commitment is a major component of love. It is responsible for long lasting relationship and sincerity between couples. When Commitment is not present marriage breaks. Thus a major difference between Marriage and Live in Relation is that married couples have commitment and couples living in Live in relation lack commitment. However it is possible that Live in Relationship couples experience commitment later in their relation and wish to marry each other.
Now it is important to know that , why some individuals lack commitment component in their love ? It has been seen that children whose parents got separated by divorce , develop a feeling that marriage is not good , it only gives tension , pain , conflicts & grief. As they grow up their negative feeling towards marriage become stronger . When such individuals fall in love with some one, although they want to live with that person( the person whom they start loving ) but their past experience & negative feelings towards marriage do not allow them to commit for marriage. So they choose ' Live in Relationship ' as such individual experience very strong feeling of Intimacy & Passion towards the person they love. Another reason is children who have been brought up in families where there have been lot of extra marital affairs or in other words one or both parents of child have love affairs with other individuals & therefore the child has not seen the commitment part of love between his or her parents . Such children when grow up do not want to go for a committed relation like marriage. Peer influence to some extent also responsible for ' Live in relation '.
Live in relationship couples face problems , when one of the partner start feeling commitment in love & other does not. At this moment the partner wishes to marry but the other partner refuses & forces to continue living together without marriage. Conflict arises which eventually leads to break ups & emotional distress . Since ' Live in Relation ' does not have any legal implication the female cannot expect for any money or property from the male.Also children born to such couples are not considered legal . So they too have a dark future as they will be brought up by single parent & there are chances that the child will too lack commitment component of love when he or she will grew up.' Live In Relation ' do not last for very long time either it ends up in marriage or permanent separation of the couples but mostly it ends up with separation.
Thus in a nut shell ' Live in Relation ' have short life span as the commitment component of love is missing . Commitment between couples is very essential for a lasting relation.
EVIL RITUALS & CUSTOMS PRACTICED IN VARIOUS COUNTRIES
All over the world in the guise of religious rituals or customs many evil practices are carried out & unfortunately women & young children are the prey of these malpractices. I am writing in this article about some of the uncommon but but very severely ill customs which were & are practiced in some parts of the world.
CAPACOCHA is a religious ritual followed by Inca's some 500-600 years ago. In Capacocha health children were sacrificed . The Inca's used to believe that the children do not die but they join their ancestors & look after the village from mountain tops like angels. According to the Inca's the child chosen for the sacrifice was the blessed one & only the beautiful & healthy child was sacrificed. Parents themselves offer their child for Capacocha. Before the sacrifice the child was made to walk hundreds of miles & than asked to drink CHICHA -a maize beer . When the child falls asleep & was in deep sleep , he or she was placed in underground niches where they froze to death. In recent past bodies of 3 Inca children were entombed from the 22 , 000 feet summit of Mount Lillaillaco , a volcano near the Chilean border. The children entombed were victim of Capacocha. The mummies ( the 3 Inca children ) are believed to be some 500 years old & are considered as the World's best preserved mummies because internal organs are intact & blood is still in lungs , heart & skin. There are many tombs of Inca children which have not been entombed yet.
In India Devdasi , Sati are some of the common evil rituals which have been abolished but NARMUNDO KHELA or THE SKULL GAME is one which is still in practice in Bengal . The villagers of Sona Palasi on Poila Baiskh ( First day of the first month of the new year ) dance on the beats of drums carrying along with them unearthed human skulls & corpse of human babies. The villagers believe that Lord Shiva will be pleased with them for this. Although the villagers say they have dug the earth for the dead bodies but the social workers & the police suspect that the villagers kill babies for the corpse . According to my Journalist friend who has witnessed the Nurmundo Khela in Sona Palasi the whole event is very scary .
In China a custom of " foot binding of girls " was followed for some 1000 years . Although in the 20th century it was ceased due to westernization. However in remote areas of China this custom is still carried out. In China by the time the girl was 3 years old her toes were first broken & her feet were bound tightly with cloth strips to prevent the feet to grow larger than 10 cms due to this extremely painful practice the souls of feet bend in extreme concavity . The feet so formed had all together different shape & are called as LOTUS FEET .In China this custom was compulsory .Girls who did not have Lotus Feet did not get married easily.Lotus Feet were considered as a part of women's beauty by men but in reality the girl had become handicap as she was unable to walk & dance properly.Women who had Lotus feet have to wear specially designed shoes to walk . There were factories in China who used to design shoes for Lotus feet . Today there are very few shoes factories which manufacture foot wear for lotus feet because only few elderly Chinese women have Lotus feet.
The Karen women are world famous for their LONG NECKS , Like Lotus feet , long necks are also considered important & compulsory as they thought to enhance women's beauty . Karen's are tribal people found in Burma & Thailand . By religion majority of them are Buddhist . Among Karen's there is a custom of wearing 25-30 Brass rings around the neck. When the girls are around 5 , Brass rings are put around their necks & than they have to wear it through out their lives. The total weight of the Brass rings varies from 1-2 Kgs . Karen women have to bear the load of the rings 24 hours of a day. Unlike other women, Karen women hate their neck ornaments but since it is an important custom , Karen women have to follow it. Though it seems that Karen women have long necks in reality their neck bones break because of the load of the brass rings. Isn't an evil custom practiced by Karens ? Well the Chinese girls are lucky as the foot binding custom has been abolished , however the Karen girls have to still wait for the day when they can enjoy the life without the Brass rings around their neck.
Unfortunately in world there are many more evil customs & religious rituals are carried out . However we can only get rid from these mal practices if we all join hands together to remove the darkness of ignorance & illiteracy from earth.
CAPACOCHA is a religious ritual followed by Inca's some 500-600 years ago. In Capacocha health children were sacrificed . The Inca's used to believe that the children do not die but they join their ancestors & look after the village from mountain tops like angels. According to the Inca's the child chosen for the sacrifice was the blessed one & only the beautiful & healthy child was sacrificed. Parents themselves offer their child for Capacocha. Before the sacrifice the child was made to walk hundreds of miles & than asked to drink CHICHA -a maize beer . When the child falls asleep & was in deep sleep , he or she was placed in underground niches where they froze to death. In recent past bodies of 3 Inca children were entombed from the 22 , 000 feet summit of Mount Lillaillaco , a volcano near the Chilean border. The children entombed were victim of Capacocha. The mummies ( the 3 Inca children ) are believed to be some 500 years old & are considered as the World's best preserved mummies because internal organs are intact & blood is still in lungs , heart & skin. There are many tombs of Inca children which have not been entombed yet.
In India Devdasi , Sati are some of the common evil rituals which have been abolished but NARMUNDO KHELA or THE SKULL GAME is one which is still in practice in Bengal . The villagers of Sona Palasi on Poila Baiskh ( First day of the first month of the new year ) dance on the beats of drums carrying along with them unearthed human skulls & corpse of human babies. The villagers believe that Lord Shiva will be pleased with them for this. Although the villagers say they have dug the earth for the dead bodies but the social workers & the police suspect that the villagers kill babies for the corpse . According to my Journalist friend who has witnessed the Nurmundo Khela in Sona Palasi the whole event is very scary .
In China a custom of " foot binding of girls " was followed for some 1000 years . Although in the 20th century it was ceased due to westernization. However in remote areas of China this custom is still carried out. In China by the time the girl was 3 years old her toes were first broken & her feet were bound tightly with cloth strips to prevent the feet to grow larger than 10 cms due to this extremely painful practice the souls of feet bend in extreme concavity . The feet so formed had all together different shape & are called as LOTUS FEET .In China this custom was compulsory .Girls who did not have Lotus Feet did not get married easily.Lotus Feet were considered as a part of women's beauty by men but in reality the girl had become handicap as she was unable to walk & dance properly.Women who had Lotus feet have to wear specially designed shoes to walk . There were factories in China who used to design shoes for Lotus feet . Today there are very few shoes factories which manufacture foot wear for lotus feet because only few elderly Chinese women have Lotus feet.
The Karen women are world famous for their LONG NECKS , Like Lotus feet , long necks are also considered important & compulsory as they thought to enhance women's beauty . Karen's are tribal people found in Burma & Thailand . By religion majority of them are Buddhist . Among Karen's there is a custom of wearing 25-30 Brass rings around the neck. When the girls are around 5 , Brass rings are put around their necks & than they have to wear it through out their lives. The total weight of the Brass rings varies from 1-2 Kgs . Karen women have to bear the load of the rings 24 hours of a day. Unlike other women, Karen women hate their neck ornaments but since it is an important custom , Karen women have to follow it. Though it seems that Karen women have long necks in reality their neck bones break because of the load of the brass rings. Isn't an evil custom practiced by Karens ? Well the Chinese girls are lucky as the foot binding custom has been abolished , however the Karen girls have to still wait for the day when they can enjoy the life without the Brass rings around their neck.Unfortunately in world there are many more evil customs & religious rituals are carried out . However we can only get rid from these mal practices if we all join hands together to remove the darkness of ignorance & illiteracy from earth.
EMPATHY & ITS IMPORATNCE
Empathy in lay man's language means putting your feet in other person's shoes or assuming yourself in other's situation or looking from other person's perspectives. Empathy is a very important tool for effective communication . Unless & until we do not put our self in other person's situation or position we cannot understand that individual's behavior accurately .In this context I am sharing with you my personal life experience.
I was around 9 & was studying in second standard of Hill Grange High School . One day my class teacher announced that there is a Puppet show in Prithvi theatre & the ticket is 15 Rs per head . All the students who wish to attended the show have to pay 15 Rs within 3 days .I told my mother about the puppet show but my mother refused & I informed the teacher too about it. However except for me all my classmates paid for the show. My class teacher than announced that there will be on holiday for the students , all students have to come to school on regular time & till 11.00 am there will be classes & than all the students who have paid will be taken to the theatre for the Puppet show by the school bus. So according to the teachers instructions I went to school on the day when the teacher was going to take students for the puppet show.As usual the teacher thought us till 11.00 am & than asked all the students to pack their bags & should get ready to leave for the Puppet show. I too packed my bag & was about to leave for my home as I was not going for the show but my class teacher came to me & said that all the students are going for the show except for me & I should also not miss that show. I said to my teacher that my parents are not allowing me & also I do not have 15 Rs right now to pay for the ticket . My teacher told that it is ok & I can pay later. After thinking for a while I agreed & along with other students I too boarded in the school bus to go for the puppet show.It took nearly half an hour to reach the theatre . The show was approximately 2 hours long but I was not enjoying it because I was feeling very hungry & I did not have the lunch box nor money to buy something from the theatre canteen. Still I managed to watch the show. Around 1.30 pm we again left from the theatre & came back to school around 2.00 pm. Since I was feeling very hungry I ran & went to my house. My house was within a stones throw from the school so I reached home in 5 minutes.
When I reached home my mother was red in anger , in loud voice she asked me where I was for last three hours ? As I had promised to come at home from school around 11.00 am . She said that since I did not come back from school for so long she searched me in the whole school premises & she even enquired about me from other teachers & school staff. My mother scolded me very badly , she told that she was about to call my father to inform him about the missing of their daughter from the school. After hearing her shouting I told that I was about to come home but the teacher told me that all students are going & I should also accompany , therefore I went with the other students for the puppet show.On hearing this she calmed down for a while & than told me not to go any where without informing her hence forth. I said ok. Although I said sorry to my mother but from within I felt that why she shouted at me , I just went with the other students of my class . I thought that why she is so tensed if I did not come home on time . It is ok if I am late. That day I did not realize my mother's behavior because I did not put my feet in her shoes may be because of my age. However now when I think of the same incident & imagine my self as mother of 9 years old girl & my daughter going for a puppet show from school without informing me I feel that my mother was right . I realized her emotions & feel how worried she must be for me that day when I went for the Puppet show without informing her.Thus Empathy is very essential it enable us to understand other individual's behavior properly & it also help us to give right decision. Therefore first empathize i.e. is put your feet in other's shoes & than only give your opinion or decision.
I was around 9 & was studying in second standard of Hill Grange High School . One day my class teacher announced that there is a Puppet show in Prithvi theatre & the ticket is 15 Rs per head . All the students who wish to attended the show have to pay 15 Rs within 3 days .I told my mother about the puppet show but my mother refused & I informed the teacher too about it. However except for me all my classmates paid for the show. My class teacher than announced that there will be on holiday for the students , all students have to come to school on regular time & till 11.00 am there will be classes & than all the students who have paid will be taken to the theatre for the Puppet show by the school bus. So according to the teachers instructions I went to school on the day when the teacher was going to take students for the puppet show.As usual the teacher thought us till 11.00 am & than asked all the students to pack their bags & should get ready to leave for the Puppet show. I too packed my bag & was about to leave for my home as I was not going for the show but my class teacher came to me & said that all the students are going for the show except for me & I should also not miss that show. I said to my teacher that my parents are not allowing me & also I do not have 15 Rs right now to pay for the ticket . My teacher told that it is ok & I can pay later. After thinking for a while I agreed & along with other students I too boarded in the school bus to go for the puppet show.It took nearly half an hour to reach the theatre . The show was approximately 2 hours long but I was not enjoying it because I was feeling very hungry & I did not have the lunch box nor money to buy something from the theatre canteen. Still I managed to watch the show. Around 1.30 pm we again left from the theatre & came back to school around 2.00 pm. Since I was feeling very hungry I ran & went to my house. My house was within a stones throw from the school so I reached home in 5 minutes.
When I reached home my mother was red in anger , in loud voice she asked me where I was for last three hours ? As I had promised to come at home from school around 11.00 am . She said that since I did not come back from school for so long she searched me in the whole school premises & she even enquired about me from other teachers & school staff. My mother scolded me very badly , she told that she was about to call my father to inform him about the missing of their daughter from the school. After hearing her shouting I told that I was about to come home but the teacher told me that all students are going & I should also accompany , therefore I went with the other students for the puppet show.On hearing this she calmed down for a while & than told me not to go any where without informing her hence forth. I said ok. Although I said sorry to my mother but from within I felt that why she shouted at me , I just went with the other students of my class . I thought that why she is so tensed if I did not come home on time . It is ok if I am late. That day I did not realize my mother's behavior because I did not put my feet in her shoes may be because of my age. However now when I think of the same incident & imagine my self as mother of 9 years old girl & my daughter going for a puppet show from school without informing me I feel that my mother was right . I realized her emotions & feel how worried she must be for me that day when I went for the Puppet show without informing her.Thus Empathy is very essential it enable us to understand other individual's behavior properly & it also help us to give right decision. Therefore first empathize i.e. is put your feet in other's shoes & than only give your opinion or decision.
HOW YOUR NAME CAN MAKE YOU FEEL AWKWARD
People face embarrassment because of their names. This happens either because of wrong pronunciation of the name by some one or because the name is meaningless or sometimes because of the unisexual nature of name .
We all feel disgusted when our names are pronounced wrongly & the embarrassment is more when our name is purposely pronounced wrong by some one. For instance when I was in school , we were taught music by a Sir whose name was Mr. Deepak , he used to purposely call my classmate Sana as ' Sanam '. Sana used to feel very irritated when he used to call her ' Sanam' . Sana is a Arabic word meaning Prayer & Sanam means Lover.Not only the pronunciation but the meaning of the name to at times make the person look down.People generally ask the meaning of the unusual names & many times it happen the person with the unusual name does not know the meaning of his or her name & so people laugh & advice the individual to ask his or her parents about the meaning of the name.Often it also happens that the person's name is meaningless & when he or she asked the meaning of the name by somebody the person tells some funny or irrelevant meaning of his or her own name . Recently I met a young Indian girl & I asked her name , she replied ' HALISHA '.I asked her what does it mean , she said ' HEAVEN'S CINDERELLA ' . I felt like laughing because Cinderella is a fiction character & there is nothing like Heaven's Cinderella . I further enquired that is it an Indian name , the girl said yes..Now according to my knowledge in no Indian language there is the name Halisha . It is just a self created name & it is meaningless. Halisha can be meaningful if this little girl becomes a renowned personality of our nation than people can keep their daughter's name as Halisha & can say that it is the name of a popular person . There are also certain names which does not mean very good & still people choose that name for their children for eg ) Vipin means Jungle & still people keep their son's name as Vipin.
Unisexual names occasionally make the person feel awkward . Names common to both men & women like Prem , Kiran , Shashi , Poonam , Mithlesh etc are unisexual names .To emphasize on this point I am sharing with you my personal experience.As you know my name is ' MOKSHA ' . Although there is alphabet ' A ' in the end of my name , still most people pronounce & write as ' MOKSH ' & therefore many people who do not know me personally consider me as male .Recently I open an account in ORIENTAL BANK OF COMMERCE . When I checked my account on internet , I found my name as ' Mr. Moksha '. I went to the bank & told about it to the bank assistant . On hearing this he laughed & thought I am joking . He than checked my name on internet & when he saw that I was made as male by the bank , he started laughing & said that the person who has updated my details on net had considered you me as male . He also told the same thing to other bankers & all the bankers started laughing. Although meaning wise my name is very good & people always compliment me for that but because of the unisexual nature of my name , people often consider me as male , which makes me feel very embarrassing.
Sometimes the name of the person make him or her feel awkward when somebody else shares the same name & that person is known for something bad or has done something evil or socially unacceptable .Do you remember ' BALBEER PASHA ' . Yes this name was used in the Aids advertisement few years back. Many men whose name was also Balbeer changed their name to Bala or something else because they were teased by others.Thus your name can make you feel awkward if it pronounced wrongly by some one or if it meaningless or if you do not know the proper meaning of your name or some one else shares your name & that person is known for something bad or evil.
We all feel disgusted when our names are pronounced wrongly & the embarrassment is more when our name is purposely pronounced wrong by some one. For instance when I was in school , we were taught music by a Sir whose name was Mr. Deepak , he used to purposely call my classmate Sana as ' Sanam '. Sana used to feel very irritated when he used to call her ' Sanam' . Sana is a Arabic word meaning Prayer & Sanam means Lover.Not only the pronunciation but the meaning of the name to at times make the person look down.People generally ask the meaning of the unusual names & many times it happen the person with the unusual name does not know the meaning of his or her name & so people laugh & advice the individual to ask his or her parents about the meaning of the name.Often it also happens that the person's name is meaningless & when he or she asked the meaning of the name by somebody the person tells some funny or irrelevant meaning of his or her own name . Recently I met a young Indian girl & I asked her name , she replied ' HALISHA '.I asked her what does it mean , she said ' HEAVEN'S CINDERELLA ' . I felt like laughing because Cinderella is a fiction character & there is nothing like Heaven's Cinderella . I further enquired that is it an Indian name , the girl said yes..Now according to my knowledge in no Indian language there is the name Halisha . It is just a self created name & it is meaningless. Halisha can be meaningful if this little girl becomes a renowned personality of our nation than people can keep their daughter's name as Halisha & can say that it is the name of a popular person . There are also certain names which does not mean very good & still people choose that name for their children for eg ) Vipin means Jungle & still people keep their son's name as Vipin.
Unisexual names occasionally make the person feel awkward . Names common to both men & women like Prem , Kiran , Shashi , Poonam , Mithlesh etc are unisexual names .To emphasize on this point I am sharing with you my personal experience.As you know my name is ' MOKSHA ' . Although there is alphabet ' A ' in the end of my name , still most people pronounce & write as ' MOKSH ' & therefore many people who do not know me personally consider me as male .Recently I open an account in ORIENTAL BANK OF COMMERCE . When I checked my account on internet , I found my name as ' Mr. Moksha '. I went to the bank & told about it to the bank assistant . On hearing this he laughed & thought I am joking . He than checked my name on internet & when he saw that I was made as male by the bank , he started laughing & said that the person who has updated my details on net had considered you me as male . He also told the same thing to other bankers & all the bankers started laughing. Although meaning wise my name is very good & people always compliment me for that but because of the unisexual nature of my name , people often consider me as male , which makes me feel very embarrassing.
Sometimes the name of the person make him or her feel awkward when somebody else shares the same name & that person is known for something bad or has done something evil or socially unacceptable .Do you remember ' BALBEER PASHA ' . Yes this name was used in the Aids advertisement few years back. Many men whose name was also Balbeer changed their name to Bala or something else because they were teased by others.Thus your name can make you feel awkward if it pronounced wrongly by some one or if it meaningless or if you do not know the proper meaning of your name or some one else shares your name & that person is known for something bad or evil.
HOW TO CORRECT OTHERS FOR THEIR FOLLY
Many people have a habit of correcting others. As soon as they find other person making a mistake , they immediately try to correct the person. Correcting other for their mistake is a good habit.However most of the people who correct others consciously or unconsciously try to pose others that they are more wise , intelligent & socially responsible person & therefore they have the right to correct others . As a result of which while correcting an individual for his or her folly , they make the individual who has made a mistake , feel humiliated. Sometimes the mistake is so small but the person who corrects it makes it so big in front of other people that the person who has committed a mistake feel so disgusted that the person thinks even of committing suicide . Thus I want to say that if we see some one making a mistake , we should always try to correct the person but without letting the person feel inferior or useless.Unfortunately people make the person who has made the folly feel humiliated .As a consequence the person who has been corrected does not realize that he or she is being corrected for his or her well being & the individual instead of thanking the person who has corrected him or her, hates the person. In this context a remembered my college incident .
When I was doing PG in Dietetics from IHMCTAN , we had practicals in Therapeutic Dietetics . In the practicals of Therapeutic Dietetics all the students have to plan a whole day diet of person suffering from a particular disease & than have to cook either Break Fast or Lunch or Dinner from the whole day diet plan of the patient.After cooking the meal we have to display it & the Professor would than discuss the pros & cons of the diet plan with the whole class . My friend Lakshmi along with other students planned a diet for Diabetic patient & than she cooked & displayed the lunch items on the table . Our Professor Shanta Devi asked the student to stand up & speak about their patient & the diet plan which they have designed. When Lakshmi's turn came , she stood & spoke about her Diabetic patient & also the diet which she has prescribed . As she was explaining her case study she pronounced the word ' MUSHY ' as ' MASHY ' .I do not remember in which context she used the word ' MASHY ' but what I cannot forget forever is the way our Professor Ms. Shanta Devi corrected her .Ms. Shanta Devi humiliated Lakshmi so badly for just pronouncing a word wrongly.Although she thought her the correct pronunciation of the word ' MUSHY ' but the way was absolutely disgusting .
Ms. Shanta Devi laughed at Lakshmi , she told her that she should be sent back to school to learn English . Not only this the professor said that she does not deserve a PG degree & she will never be able to practice as Dietician in her life. Ms. Shanta Devi said all this in front of whole class & other girls started laughing. The professor than called other teachers & said that , Lakshmi does not know how to pronounce the word ' MUSHY '. l was looking at Lakshmi , she did not cried bit her plight was pathetic . I feel that you might be thinking that Ms. Shanta devi did this with Lakshmi because she might not like her personally but no you are not thinking right as after a month a similar incident happen with another classmate of mine . She also have to look down because of wrong pronunciation. Now whenever I think of this incident , I feel Shanta mam should have called Lakshmi privately & should have told her the correct pronunciation of the word ' MUSHY ; rather than making her feel humiliated in front of whole class & other teachers.
Thus we should always correct others for their mistake but we should never humiliate them & also we should not try to pose our self more intelligent while correcting other for his or her folly. By humiliating we will never be able to show the right path to a person instead humiliation give rise to haltered & animosity.
When I was doing PG in Dietetics from IHMCTAN , we had practicals in Therapeutic Dietetics . In the practicals of Therapeutic Dietetics all the students have to plan a whole day diet of person suffering from a particular disease & than have to cook either Break Fast or Lunch or Dinner from the whole day diet plan of the patient.After cooking the meal we have to display it & the Professor would than discuss the pros & cons of the diet plan with the whole class . My friend Lakshmi along with other students planned a diet for Diabetic patient & than she cooked & displayed the lunch items on the table . Our Professor Shanta Devi asked the student to stand up & speak about their patient & the diet plan which they have designed. When Lakshmi's turn came , she stood & spoke about her Diabetic patient & also the diet which she has prescribed . As she was explaining her case study she pronounced the word ' MUSHY ' as ' MASHY ' .I do not remember in which context she used the word ' MASHY ' but what I cannot forget forever is the way our Professor Ms. Shanta Devi corrected her .Ms. Shanta Devi humiliated Lakshmi so badly for just pronouncing a word wrongly.Although she thought her the correct pronunciation of the word ' MUSHY ' but the way was absolutely disgusting .
Ms. Shanta Devi laughed at Lakshmi , she told her that she should be sent back to school to learn English . Not only this the professor said that she does not deserve a PG degree & she will never be able to practice as Dietician in her life. Ms. Shanta Devi said all this in front of whole class & other girls started laughing. The professor than called other teachers & said that , Lakshmi does not know how to pronounce the word ' MUSHY '. l was looking at Lakshmi , she did not cried bit her plight was pathetic . I feel that you might be thinking that Ms. Shanta devi did this with Lakshmi because she might not like her personally but no you are not thinking right as after a month a similar incident happen with another classmate of mine . She also have to look down because of wrong pronunciation. Now whenever I think of this incident , I feel Shanta mam should have called Lakshmi privately & should have told her the correct pronunciation of the word ' MUSHY ; rather than making her feel humiliated in front of whole class & other teachers.
Thus we should always correct others for their mistake but we should never humiliate them & also we should not try to pose our self more intelligent while correcting other for his or her folly. By humiliating we will never be able to show the right path to a person instead humiliation give rise to haltered & animosity.
BEWARE WITH NET SCAMS
Lottery scams are common on internet. Generally in lottery scams the email ID user receives an email saying that YOU HAVE WON HUGE SUM AS YOUR EMAIL ID WAS SELECTED .TO CLAIM THE WINNING AMOUNT PLEASE SEND YOUR COMPLETE DETAILS AS SOON AS POSSIBLE ON THE BELOW EMAIL ID .FOR FURHTER INFORMATION YOU CAN CONTACT US ON THE BELOW ADDRESS. If the person contacts the Lottery management team they ask for few $ as transferring charges. Since the amount is so small people usually send the amount to the person. Once the Lottery team receives the transfer amount they never respond back. As the amount is around 10 $ the person also can not file any case in court.
Another common net scam in which email ID user receives an email which is something like this A MILLIONAIRE OF AFRICA HAS EXPIRED ALONG WITH HIS WIFE & ONLY DAUGHTER IN AN AIR CRASH IN 2000 ( for more info you can view the BBC news by clicking the link below ). ACCORDING TO HIS WILL ALL HIS WEALTH WILL BE OF HIS DAUGHTER AFTER HIS DEATH BUT INCASE SHE TOO DIES THAN IF SOME BODY ELSE FROM HIS KIN SHOULD CLAIM FOR HIS WEALTH WITHIN 10 YEARS OF HIS DEATH. AFTER 10 YEARS THE WEALTH WILL GO IN TO THE NATIONS TREASURY.IN CASE YOU WISH TO CLAIM FOR HIS WEATLH PLEASE CONTACT US URGENTLY. WE WILL COME TO YOUR COUNTRY & WILL DO ALL THE LEGAL FORMALITIES & THAN WILL PRESENT YOU IN COURT OF AFRICA.ONCE YOU RECEIVE THE WEALTH OF THE MILLIONAIRE YOU CAN GIVE US A PART OF IT AS OUR COMMISION.
If have received several such emails on all my email IDs. Every time the sender of the email is a new user & in every email there is also the link of BBC news. It is my suggestion to all net surfers that do not ever reply to such emails. Delete them immediately after reading. These emails might put you in big trouble.
Recently I came to know about net banking fraud. I received the below email
From: HDFC BANK [mailto:onlinebanking@hdfcbank.net]Sent: Wednesday, February 27, 2008 9:35 AMSubject: Security ALERT On Your Bank Account
Dear Customer,
Warm greetings from HDFC BANK.
HDFC Internet Banking
Internet Security UPDATE
We hope that your experience with HDFC BANK has been enjoyableDuring our resent internet upgrade due to our new enhanced keyboard function and scheduled account maintenance and verification procedures, we were unable to verify your account information. This might be due to either one of the following reasons: 1. A recent change in your personal information (i.e. change of address). 2. Submitting invalid information during the initial enrollment process. 3. An inability to accurately verify your account information due to an internal error within our processors.
We demand that you take some minutes out of your online experience and renew your records to avoid running into any future problems with the online service.
However, failure to update your records will result in your account suspension. Once you have updated your account records your internet banking service will not be interrupted and will continue as normal.
Please click here http://netbanking.hdfcbank.com/netbanking and renew your account information.
In case you have any queries / clarifications, please call us at our Phonebanking Numbers or write in to support@hdfcbank.com. Please do not reply to this email.Click here to find the latest offers and updates -
Yours Truly http://www.hdfcbank.com/common/yourstruly/word_md.htm
Thank you for choosing Email Statement service.
Warm regardsHDFC Bank
DisclaimerThis e-mail is confidential and may also be legally privileged. If you are not the intended recipient, please notify us immediately; you should not copy, forward, disclose or use it for any purpose either partly or completely. If you have received this message in error, please delete it and all copies from your system and notify us by e-mail to support@hdfcbank.com Internet communications cannot be guaranteed to be timely, secure, error or virus-free. Also, the Web/ IT/ Email administrator might not allow emails with attachment. Thus the sender does not accept liability for any errors or omissions.
Terms & ConditionsInternet transmission lines are not encrypted and that email is not a secure means of transmission. The account holder acknowledges and accepts that such un-secure transmission methods involve security risks including possible third party interception risk of possible unauthorized alteration of data and/or unauthorized usage thereof for whatever purposes. The account holder specifically agrees to exempt the bank from, any and all responsibility/liability arising from such misuse and agrees not to hold the bank responsible for any such misuse and further agree to hold the bank free and harmless from all losses, costs, damages, expenses that may be suffered by the account holder due to any errors and delays. The account holder agrees that the same shall not be considered as a breach by the bank of banker-customer confidentiality. HDFC Bank does not take any liability of non-receipt of the emails due to ISP server problem, bad/slow connections or any other technical issue at the end of the ISP / Mail servers or the account holder's end. Account holder undertakes to verify the correctness of each statement or report in relation to any transaction and to notify the bank within 30 days of the receipt of the statement or report or before giving any further instructions thereon, whichever is the earlier, of any discrepancies, omissions or debits wrongly made or inaccuracies in the statement or report so generated. If no objection is made within 30 days or before further instructions are given by the customer, the same shall be conclusive evidence as against the customer without any further proof that the statement or report is correct and the bank shall be free from all claims in respect thereto. Under no circumstances, including negligence, shall HDFC Bank or anyone involved in creating, producing, delivering or managing customer statement of account, be liable for any direct, indirect, incidental, special or consequential damages that may result from the use or inability to use the service or out of the breach of any warranty. The use and storage of any information including without limitation, password, account information, transmission activity, account balances and any other information available on the customer’s personal computer is at customer’s own risk, sole responsibility and liability. HDFC Bank may withdraw, add to or modify the internet banking facilities from time to time by notice to the customer. While advance notice of maintenance work likely to affect the Internet Banking facilities shall be given, Bank reserves the right to suspend, upon notice, access to Internet Banking facilities or the provision of all or any of the services at any time if the bank deems it necessary to do so in the event of an emergency (opinion of Bank to be conclusive in this respect) or for security reasons. Nothing contained herein shall prejudice or affect the terms and conditions of the account opening agreement. The words and ex-pressions used herein shall have the same meaning as in the account opening agreement.. The terms and conditions of this facility shall be in addition to and not in derogation of the terms contained in the account opening agreement.
__________ NOD32 2904 (20080227) Information __________
At a glance no one can say that the email is not from HDFC Bank & therefore many people without enquiring HDFC bank give their Username & Password of their HDFG net banking. Once the fraud people receive the username & password they use it & remove small amounts from the person’s account. The amount is so small that the person does not come to know even. I too did not get that the email was not from HDFC bank but my computer technician asked me to click the link which is given in the email. When I clicked the link the URL was with .net & the actual HDFC bank URL is with .com. He told me that beware of such emails & it is not only with HDFC bank but there are scam agencies which send emails of other Banks too.
Another common net scam in which email ID user receives an email which is something like this A MILLIONAIRE OF AFRICA HAS EXPIRED ALONG WITH HIS WIFE & ONLY DAUGHTER IN AN AIR CRASH IN 2000 ( for more info you can view the BBC news by clicking the link below ). ACCORDING TO HIS WILL ALL HIS WEALTH WILL BE OF HIS DAUGHTER AFTER HIS DEATH BUT INCASE SHE TOO DIES THAN IF SOME BODY ELSE FROM HIS KIN SHOULD CLAIM FOR HIS WEALTH WITHIN 10 YEARS OF HIS DEATH. AFTER 10 YEARS THE WEALTH WILL GO IN TO THE NATIONS TREASURY.IN CASE YOU WISH TO CLAIM FOR HIS WEATLH PLEASE CONTACT US URGENTLY. WE WILL COME TO YOUR COUNTRY & WILL DO ALL THE LEGAL FORMALITIES & THAN WILL PRESENT YOU IN COURT OF AFRICA.ONCE YOU RECEIVE THE WEALTH OF THE MILLIONAIRE YOU CAN GIVE US A PART OF IT AS OUR COMMISION.
If have received several such emails on all my email IDs. Every time the sender of the email is a new user & in every email there is also the link of BBC news. It is my suggestion to all net surfers that do not ever reply to such emails. Delete them immediately after reading. These emails might put you in big trouble.
Recently I came to know about net banking fraud. I received the below email
From: HDFC BANK [mailto:onlinebanking@hdfcbank.net]Sent: Wednesday, February 27, 2008 9:35 AMSubject: Security ALERT On Your Bank Account
Dear Customer,
Warm greetings from HDFC BANK.
HDFC Internet Banking
Internet Security UPDATE
We hope that your experience with HDFC BANK has been enjoyableDuring our resent internet upgrade due to our new enhanced keyboard function and scheduled account maintenance and verification procedures, we were unable to verify your account information. This might be due to either one of the following reasons: 1. A recent change in your personal information (i.e. change of address). 2. Submitting invalid information during the initial enrollment process. 3. An inability to accurately verify your account information due to an internal error within our processors.
We demand that you take some minutes out of your online experience and renew your records to avoid running into any future problems with the online service.
However, failure to update your records will result in your account suspension. Once you have updated your account records your internet banking service will not be interrupted and will continue as normal.
Please click here http://netbanking.hdfcbank.com/netbanking and renew your account information.
In case you have any queries / clarifications, please call us at our Phonebanking Numbers or write in to support@hdfcbank.com. Please do not reply to this email.Click here to find the latest offers and updates -
Yours Truly http://www.hdfcbank.com/common/yourstruly/word_md.htm
Thank you for choosing Email Statement service.
Warm regardsHDFC Bank
DisclaimerThis e-mail is confidential and may also be legally privileged. If you are not the intended recipient, please notify us immediately; you should not copy, forward, disclose or use it for any purpose either partly or completely. If you have received this message in error, please delete it and all copies from your system and notify us by e-mail to support@hdfcbank.com Internet communications cannot be guaranteed to be timely, secure, error or virus-free. Also, the Web/ IT/ Email administrator might not allow emails with attachment. Thus the sender does not accept liability for any errors or omissions.
Terms & ConditionsInternet transmission lines are not encrypted and that email is not a secure means of transmission. The account holder acknowledges and accepts that such un-secure transmission methods involve security risks including possible third party interception risk of possible unauthorized alteration of data and/or unauthorized usage thereof for whatever purposes. The account holder specifically agrees to exempt the bank from, any and all responsibility/liability arising from such misuse and agrees not to hold the bank responsible for any such misuse and further agree to hold the bank free and harmless from all losses, costs, damages, expenses that may be suffered by the account holder due to any errors and delays. The account holder agrees that the same shall not be considered as a breach by the bank of banker-customer confidentiality. HDFC Bank does not take any liability of non-receipt of the emails due to ISP server problem, bad/slow connections or any other technical issue at the end of the ISP / Mail servers or the account holder's end. Account holder undertakes to verify the correctness of each statement or report in relation to any transaction and to notify the bank within 30 days of the receipt of the statement or report or before giving any further instructions thereon, whichever is the earlier, of any discrepancies, omissions or debits wrongly made or inaccuracies in the statement or report so generated. If no objection is made within 30 days or before further instructions are given by the customer, the same shall be conclusive evidence as against the customer without any further proof that the statement or report is correct and the bank shall be free from all claims in respect thereto. Under no circumstances, including negligence, shall HDFC Bank or anyone involved in creating, producing, delivering or managing customer statement of account, be liable for any direct, indirect, incidental, special or consequential damages that may result from the use or inability to use the service or out of the breach of any warranty. The use and storage of any information including without limitation, password, account information, transmission activity, account balances and any other information available on the customer’s personal computer is at customer’s own risk, sole responsibility and liability. HDFC Bank may withdraw, add to or modify the internet banking facilities from time to time by notice to the customer. While advance notice of maintenance work likely to affect the Internet Banking facilities shall be given, Bank reserves the right to suspend, upon notice, access to Internet Banking facilities or the provision of all or any of the services at any time if the bank deems it necessary to do so in the event of an emergency (opinion of Bank to be conclusive in this respect) or for security reasons. Nothing contained herein shall prejudice or affect the terms and conditions of the account opening agreement. The words and ex-pressions used herein shall have the same meaning as in the account opening agreement.. The terms and conditions of this facility shall be in addition to and not in derogation of the terms contained in the account opening agreement.
__________ NOD32 2904 (20080227) Information __________
At a glance no one can say that the email is not from HDFC Bank & therefore many people without enquiring HDFC bank give their Username & Password of their HDFG net banking. Once the fraud people receive the username & password they use it & remove small amounts from the person’s account. The amount is so small that the person does not come to know even. I too did not get that the email was not from HDFC bank but my computer technician asked me to click the link which is given in the email. When I clicked the link the URL was with .net & the actual HDFC bank URL is with .com. He told me that beware of such emails & it is not only with HDFC bank but there are scam agencies which send emails of other Banks too.
BEWARE OF MARRGAE BROKERS
Match making has become a grand business today.On internet for all most all communities there are matrimonial websites. Also there are match making agencies which does match making for specific castes only. Match making is a pious work , traditionally in India it was only done by Pandits ( Brahmins) & they used to become satisfied with what ever bride & bridegrooms parents used to give them but unfortunately today it has become a business . Since match making business does not require any specific qualification or certification or license from government many people have taken match making as their source of income . Many people in order to make money instantly cheat innocent people in the name of match making.
In recent past my cousin aunty placed an advertisement of her daughter Divya in the matrimonial section of Hindustan Times. Several people from all over India contacted my aunty through her email ID . A match maker too contacted her. He sent multiple emails all with different email IDs. In each email he wrote his contact details & along with the details he attached bio data of some boys. All the bio data's were incomplete & the boys parents & residential details were missing. The match maker sent the emails for 2-3 days . Every day he used to sent 10-15 emails. After 3 days he started sending emails in which there were only photographs of boys. All the boys were very very handsome & as written by the match maker they were all from decent families. My aunty liked some of the snaps of boys & she finally thought of contacting the match maker. The match maker was from Chandigarh & has given his cell number & other details.
My aunty called the marriage broker on his cell phone & enquired . The match maker spoke very decently & said that is his business & from past 40 years he has been in to match making. He also named some people who had got married through him. Than he told that he had sent incomplete particulars of boys because people will ignore him & will directly contact the parties. So first the person has to become a paid member of his match making agency & they he will send bio data of suitable matches for one year. He also told that if the bio data suits than he will fix a formal meeting . The match maker told that his fees is just Rs 2000 for a whole year. My aunty thinking that the match maker is asking a reasonable amount & also have good proposals , sent him a DD OF 2000 Rs. The match maker received the money & sent some bio data along with photographs of boys on my aunty's email ID for few days. Aunty chose few particulars of boys & contacted the marriage broker. The broker said that he will talk with the boys parents & will respond back in one or two days. However the match maker did not contacted my aunty , my aunty again called him . The match maker told that the boys parents have gone out of town . Than after few days she again contacted the agent , he did not pick up his cell. She tried to contact the match maker several times but he did not pick up the phone.
Eventually my aunty decided to contact the boy's parents directly . When she called up , she came to know the number does not exists . She than thought to get new number from MTNL enquiry . The telephone operator said that there is no telephone number registered with this address. Than she thought to get the details of the boy from distant relatives . The relatives enquired & said that no body exists with such name & address. My aunty than contacted the match maker on the address on which she has sent DD , to her shock there was no one with such name. Aunty was depressed but she thought that she learnt that how people cheat in the name of match making . After some days she told the whole incident to some of our relatives from North , they said that there are many fraud match makers who contact people from the advertisement placed in newspaper & websites & than they send fake bio data of people & to persuade people they send the photographs of boys & girls who are not very familiar & are into modeling & people thinking that the match maker has good proposals get registered with the match making agencies.
Thus unless & until your are not sure of the match making agency do not register or entertain the match maker . You may lose wealth & also it might be possible that the match maker may miss use the snap of the person
In recent past my cousin aunty placed an advertisement of her daughter Divya in the matrimonial section of Hindustan Times. Several people from all over India contacted my aunty through her email ID . A match maker too contacted her. He sent multiple emails all with different email IDs. In each email he wrote his contact details & along with the details he attached bio data of some boys. All the bio data's were incomplete & the boys parents & residential details were missing. The match maker sent the emails for 2-3 days . Every day he used to sent 10-15 emails. After 3 days he started sending emails in which there were only photographs of boys. All the boys were very very handsome & as written by the match maker they were all from decent families. My aunty liked some of the snaps of boys & she finally thought of contacting the match maker. The match maker was from Chandigarh & has given his cell number & other details.
My aunty called the marriage broker on his cell phone & enquired . The match maker spoke very decently & said that is his business & from past 40 years he has been in to match making. He also named some people who had got married through him. Than he told that he had sent incomplete particulars of boys because people will ignore him & will directly contact the parties. So first the person has to become a paid member of his match making agency & they he will send bio data of suitable matches for one year. He also told that if the bio data suits than he will fix a formal meeting . The match maker told that his fees is just Rs 2000 for a whole year. My aunty thinking that the match maker is asking a reasonable amount & also have good proposals , sent him a DD OF 2000 Rs. The match maker received the money & sent some bio data along with photographs of boys on my aunty's email ID for few days. Aunty chose few particulars of boys & contacted the marriage broker. The broker said that he will talk with the boys parents & will respond back in one or two days. However the match maker did not contacted my aunty , my aunty again called him . The match maker told that the boys parents have gone out of town . Than after few days she again contacted the agent , he did not pick up his cell. She tried to contact the match maker several times but he did not pick up the phone.
Eventually my aunty decided to contact the boy's parents directly . When she called up , she came to know the number does not exists . She than thought to get new number from MTNL enquiry . The telephone operator said that there is no telephone number registered with this address. Than she thought to get the details of the boy from distant relatives . The relatives enquired & said that no body exists with such name & address. My aunty than contacted the match maker on the address on which she has sent DD , to her shock there was no one with such name. Aunty was depressed but she thought that she learnt that how people cheat in the name of match making . After some days she told the whole incident to some of our relatives from North , they said that there are many fraud match makers who contact people from the advertisement placed in newspaper & websites & than they send fake bio data of people & to persuade people they send the photographs of boys & girls who are not very familiar & are into modeling & people thinking that the match maker has good proposals get registered with the match making agencies.
Thus unless & until your are not sure of the match making agency do not register or entertain the match maker . You may lose wealth & also it might be possible that the match maker may miss use the snap of the person
PHONE MISERS
MOST OF US AVAIL THE PHONE FACILITY TODAY . THERE WERE DAYS WHEN PEOPLE DID NOT HAVE TELEPHONE IN THEIR HOUSE , SO THEY HAVE TO CALL EITHER FROM PUBLIC BOOTH OR FROM THEIR NEIGHBOUR'S OR RELATIVE'S HOUSE BUT BECAUSE OF THE INVENTION OF MOBILE PHONES MAJORITY OF PEOPLE HAVE A PHONE WITH THEM .IN FACT A LARGE NUMBER OF PEOPLE HAVE A MOBILE PHONE AS WELL AS LAND LINE PHONE CONNECTION BUT STILL MANY PEOPLE PREFER TO USE OTHERS TELEPHONE TO MAKE A CALL OR PREFER TO TALK ONLY WHEN SOME BODY ELSE MAKES A CALL. I HAVE COME ACROSS MANY PHONE MISERS . BELOW I AM SHARING WITH YOU MY OWM EXPREINCES WITH PHONE MISERS.
I HAVE SEEN SOME PEOPLE WHO ALWAYS ASK A ONE RS COIN FOR MAKING A CALL FROM THE PUBLIC BOOTH & THE PEOPLE WHO ARE NOT FAMILIAR WITH HE MENTALITY OF THE PERSON EASILY GIVE ONE RS COIN , THINKING THAT THE PERSON MUST BE IN URGENT NEED. IN THIS RELATION I AM SHARING WITH YOU ABOUT ONE OF MY CLASSMATES NISHRIEEN , WHO ALWAYS USE TO ASK ONE RS COIN TO MAKE A CALL & SHE USED TO SAY THAT SHE DOES NOT HAVE THE CHANGE RIGHT NOW . NISHREEN TOOK ONE RS FROM WHOLE CLASS & SHE NEVER RETURNED IT. SHE WAS SO HABITUAL THAT SHE EVEN ASKED ONE RS COIN TO TEACHERS & PEONS OF COLLEGE . WHEN THE WHOLE CLASS REALIZED THAT NISHREENN HAS A HABIT OF MAKING PHONE CALLS FROM OTHERS MONEY , WE STOPPED GIVING HER .
THERE IS STILL ANOTHER CLASS OF PHONE MISERS WHO FIRST ASK THE PERMISSION OF MAKING A CALL & ONCE THEY MAKE A CALL THEY ASK FOR THE PAYMENT OF THE CALL & WHEN THE OWNER OF THE TELEPHONE REFUSES TO TAKE ANY MONEY FOR THE CALL , THE PERSON THAN SMILINGLY ASK THAN CAN HE OR SHE MAKE ONE MORE CALL. THIS HAPPENED WITH ME ONE OF MY NEIGHBOURS ONCE CAME TO MY HOUSE TO MAKE A PHONE CALL , I SMILINGLY OFFERED MY MTNL PHONE . SHE MADE ONE CALL & THAN SHE ASKED ME THAT ' SHALL I PAY YOU FOR THE CALL ' , I REFUSED TO TAKE THE MONEY THAN SHE AGAIN PICKED THE TELEPHONE RECEIVER & MADE TWO MORE CALLS.
ONE MORE TYPE OF PHONE MISERS WORTH MENTIONING ARE THE PEOPLE WHO GIVE MISS CALLS. THEY JUST GIVE A MISS CALL & EXPECT THE PERSON TO CALL THEM BACK. THEY GIVE YOU ONE MISS CALL & EXPECT FROM YOU THAT YOU WILL CALL THEM BACK. PERSONALLY I HATE SUCH PEOPLE & I NEVER CALL BACK TO PEOPLE WHO GIVE ME A MISS CALL. USUALLY PEOPLE WITH THIS KIND OF MENTALITY SAY THAT THEY DO NOT HAVE MUCH BALANCE IN THEIR PHONE THEREFORE THEY HAVE GIVEN A MISS CALL. ** HERE I AM ONLY TALKING ABOUT THOSE INDIVIDUALS WHO REGULARLY GIVE MISS CALLS TO ALL THE PEOPLE THEY ARE ACQUINTED WITH .
THERE ARE SOME PEOPLE WHO CONVERSE ON PHONE ONLY WHEN SOME BODY ELSE CALLS THEM. IN THAT CASE THEY WILL CHAT FOR HOURS BUT IF IN URGENCY THEY HAVE TO MAKE A CALL , THEY WILL JUST TALK FOR A MINUTE ONLY . FOR SUCH PEOPLE I REMEMBER ONE HINDI PROVERB ' MUFFT KA CHANDAN GHIS MERE NANDAN '. SUCH PHONE MISERS WHEN MAKE A CALL FROM THEIR SIDE . THEY WILL TALK FOR A MINUTE & THAN DISCONNECT THE CALL , THEY THAN WAIT FOR THE OTHER PERSON TO CALL THEM BACK & WHEN THE OTHER INDIVIDUAL CALL THEM BACK THEY SAY....." OH ! I DO NOT KNOW HOW THE PHONE GOT DISCONNECTED & I WAS TOO TRYING TO CALL YOU BACK ".
LAST BUT NOT LEAST THERE ARE PHONE MISERS WHO MAKE CALLS WHEN THEY GET SOME BODY ELSE'S MOBILE PHONE IN THEIR HAND. YES THERE ARE PEOPLE LIKE THAT. I HAVE ONE UNCLE IN DELHI , HE CALLS ONLY WHEN HE GETS SOMEBODY'S MOBILE PHONE IN HIS HAND. THEREFORE WHEN EVER HE CALLS US , WE COME TO KNOW THAT TODAY SOME BODY MUST HAVE A BAD DAY .I ALWAYS FEEL PITY FOR THE PERSON WHOSE MOBILE PHONE FALLS IN MY UNCLE'S HANDS.
YOU MIGHT TOO HAVE COME ACROSS PHONE MISERS IN YOUR LIFE. WE CAN TAG A PERSON AS ' PHONE MISER ' ONLY WHEN WE HAD SEVERAL EXPERIENCES IN WHICH THE PERSON TRIED TO SAVE HIS MONEY IN MAKING PHONE CALLS.PHONE MISERS MAY SPEND LAVISHLY ON OTHER THINGS BUT WILL NOT SPEND HIS OR HER MONEY ON MAKING PHONE CALLS. PHONE MISERS DO NOT CARE ABOUT WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK ABOUT THEM . IT IS VERY DIFFICULT TO CHANGE THE MENTALITY OF A PHONE MISER & IF THE PHONE MISER IS OUR FRIEND OR RELATIVE OR COLLEAGUE THAN WE CANNOT BE RUDE & WE JUST HAVE TO TOLERATE THEM SMILINGLY.
I HAVE SEEN SOME PEOPLE WHO ALWAYS ASK A ONE RS COIN FOR MAKING A CALL FROM THE PUBLIC BOOTH & THE PEOPLE WHO ARE NOT FAMILIAR WITH HE MENTALITY OF THE PERSON EASILY GIVE ONE RS COIN , THINKING THAT THE PERSON MUST BE IN URGENT NEED. IN THIS RELATION I AM SHARING WITH YOU ABOUT ONE OF MY CLASSMATES NISHRIEEN , WHO ALWAYS USE TO ASK ONE RS COIN TO MAKE A CALL & SHE USED TO SAY THAT SHE DOES NOT HAVE THE CHANGE RIGHT NOW . NISHREEN TOOK ONE RS FROM WHOLE CLASS & SHE NEVER RETURNED IT. SHE WAS SO HABITUAL THAT SHE EVEN ASKED ONE RS COIN TO TEACHERS & PEONS OF COLLEGE . WHEN THE WHOLE CLASS REALIZED THAT NISHREENN HAS A HABIT OF MAKING PHONE CALLS FROM OTHERS MONEY , WE STOPPED GIVING HER .
THERE IS STILL ANOTHER CLASS OF PHONE MISERS WHO FIRST ASK THE PERMISSION OF MAKING A CALL & ONCE THEY MAKE A CALL THEY ASK FOR THE PAYMENT OF THE CALL & WHEN THE OWNER OF THE TELEPHONE REFUSES TO TAKE ANY MONEY FOR THE CALL , THE PERSON THAN SMILINGLY ASK THAN CAN HE OR SHE MAKE ONE MORE CALL. THIS HAPPENED WITH ME ONE OF MY NEIGHBOURS ONCE CAME TO MY HOUSE TO MAKE A PHONE CALL , I SMILINGLY OFFERED MY MTNL PHONE . SHE MADE ONE CALL & THAN SHE ASKED ME THAT ' SHALL I PAY YOU FOR THE CALL ' , I REFUSED TO TAKE THE MONEY THAN SHE AGAIN PICKED THE TELEPHONE RECEIVER & MADE TWO MORE CALLS.
ONE MORE TYPE OF PHONE MISERS WORTH MENTIONING ARE THE PEOPLE WHO GIVE MISS CALLS. THEY JUST GIVE A MISS CALL & EXPECT THE PERSON TO CALL THEM BACK. THEY GIVE YOU ONE MISS CALL & EXPECT FROM YOU THAT YOU WILL CALL THEM BACK. PERSONALLY I HATE SUCH PEOPLE & I NEVER CALL BACK TO PEOPLE WHO GIVE ME A MISS CALL. USUALLY PEOPLE WITH THIS KIND OF MENTALITY SAY THAT THEY DO NOT HAVE MUCH BALANCE IN THEIR PHONE THEREFORE THEY HAVE GIVEN A MISS CALL. ** HERE I AM ONLY TALKING ABOUT THOSE INDIVIDUALS WHO REGULARLY GIVE MISS CALLS TO ALL THE PEOPLE THEY ARE ACQUINTED WITH .
THERE ARE SOME PEOPLE WHO CONVERSE ON PHONE ONLY WHEN SOME BODY ELSE CALLS THEM. IN THAT CASE THEY WILL CHAT FOR HOURS BUT IF IN URGENCY THEY HAVE TO MAKE A CALL , THEY WILL JUST TALK FOR A MINUTE ONLY . FOR SUCH PEOPLE I REMEMBER ONE HINDI PROVERB ' MUFFT KA CHANDAN GHIS MERE NANDAN '. SUCH PHONE MISERS WHEN MAKE A CALL FROM THEIR SIDE . THEY WILL TALK FOR A MINUTE & THAN DISCONNECT THE CALL , THEY THAN WAIT FOR THE OTHER PERSON TO CALL THEM BACK & WHEN THE OTHER INDIVIDUAL CALL THEM BACK THEY SAY....." OH ! I DO NOT KNOW HOW THE PHONE GOT DISCONNECTED & I WAS TOO TRYING TO CALL YOU BACK ".
LAST BUT NOT LEAST THERE ARE PHONE MISERS WHO MAKE CALLS WHEN THEY GET SOME BODY ELSE'S MOBILE PHONE IN THEIR HAND. YES THERE ARE PEOPLE LIKE THAT. I HAVE ONE UNCLE IN DELHI , HE CALLS ONLY WHEN HE GETS SOMEBODY'S MOBILE PHONE IN HIS HAND. THEREFORE WHEN EVER HE CALLS US , WE COME TO KNOW THAT TODAY SOME BODY MUST HAVE A BAD DAY .I ALWAYS FEEL PITY FOR THE PERSON WHOSE MOBILE PHONE FALLS IN MY UNCLE'S HANDS.
YOU MIGHT TOO HAVE COME ACROSS PHONE MISERS IN YOUR LIFE. WE CAN TAG A PERSON AS ' PHONE MISER ' ONLY WHEN WE HAD SEVERAL EXPERIENCES IN WHICH THE PERSON TRIED TO SAVE HIS MONEY IN MAKING PHONE CALLS.PHONE MISERS MAY SPEND LAVISHLY ON OTHER THINGS BUT WILL NOT SPEND HIS OR HER MONEY ON MAKING PHONE CALLS. PHONE MISERS DO NOT CARE ABOUT WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK ABOUT THEM . IT IS VERY DIFFICULT TO CHANGE THE MENTALITY OF A PHONE MISER & IF THE PHONE MISER IS OUR FRIEND OR RELATIVE OR COLLEAGUE THAN WE CANNOT BE RUDE & WE JUST HAVE TO TOLERATE THEM SMILINGLY.
PEOPLE FALLING IN LOVE THROUGH SOCIAL NETWORKING SITES
There is a boom of social networking websites on internet .The newer social networking sites like Yuwie , IBIBO not only helps in building social contacts but also gives other privileges like earning through blogging & uploading pictures .Majority of people who surf Internet frequently are members of at least one social networking websites either for fun , or to build contacts or for promotion of their own on line business or for earning through blogging . When it comes to earning through blogging , people spend several hours in a day to update their blogs & than on reading & commenting other bloggers work. As a result of which bloggers get very much acquainted with each others style of writing , thoughts ,likes , dislikes ,profession & other personal aspects & at times bloggers get attracted to opposite sex bloggers. Once this happens the bloggers mind gets completely diverted from blogging . He or she starts giving very sensitive comments on the articles of the bloggers with whom he or she has got attracted .The comments are very frequent & personalised as a result both the bloggers get attracted to one another.
Recently I came across few cases where in male bloggers first approached female bloggers by giving frequent & touching comments on their articles & than they exchanged their contact numbaers & email IDs.Later the male bloggers shared their past with the female bloggers & expressed how lonely they are without true love in their lives & eventually proposed the females saying that they can only bring the lost love back into their lives . Women feel very sorry for the past of males & they started loving the them thinking that the males are very honest & will be carrying husbands if they tie knot with them. For few months these couples continued their interaction through blogging & chatting & meanwhile they commited for marriage , without any face to face meetings. Since it was not a true love & was mear attraction the male bloggers got attracted to another female bloggers & thereby they lost interest in the previous female bloggers & the commitments which they made to them became meaningless.
As usual the females got very upset , they lost hope , trust & health & now these women do not believe in the Institution of marriage they do not want to get married for ever & are not ready to forget them athough their dream homes are scattered totally According to me it is not wrong to love somebody & to express love for someone nor I say it is the folly of men alone .Also there might be people who got true life partners through social networking sites but I feel one should not commit for marriage without family consent & face to face interaction with the person whom you met through social networking websites.
Recently I came across few cases where in male bloggers first approached female bloggers by giving frequent & touching comments on their articles & than they exchanged their contact numbaers & email IDs.Later the male bloggers shared their past with the female bloggers & expressed how lonely they are without true love in their lives & eventually proposed the females saying that they can only bring the lost love back into their lives . Women feel very sorry for the past of males & they started loving the them thinking that the males are very honest & will be carrying husbands if they tie knot with them. For few months these couples continued their interaction through blogging & chatting & meanwhile they commited for marriage , without any face to face meetings. Since it was not a true love & was mear attraction the male bloggers got attracted to another female bloggers & thereby they lost interest in the previous female bloggers & the commitments which they made to them became meaningless.
As usual the females got very upset , they lost hope , trust & health & now these women do not believe in the Institution of marriage they do not want to get married for ever & are not ready to forget them athough their dream homes are scattered totally According to me it is not wrong to love somebody & to express love for someone nor I say it is the folly of men alone .Also there might be people who got true life partners through social networking sites but I feel one should not commit for marriage without family consent & face to face interaction with the person whom you met through social networking websites.
BAAP BADA NA BHAIYA SABSE BADA RUPAIYA
" Baap bada na bhaiya sabse bada rupaiya ".....is not said in vain . It is very true in today's society where every one is behind money & some are behind the money to the extent where they go beyond humanity.In this context I would like to share with you my experience.
One fine morning my building guard along with a man came to my house , asking my mother to close all the windows of my home as the person will going to break a bee hive. She immediately asked the servant to close all the windows.After nearly half an hour a boy who was not more than 9 years came back & asked to open all the window as the bee hive was broken .So my mother asked the boy that you too break bee hives , he replied yes & asked my mother to give him a untensil so that he can bring the so called fresh honey for my family.
My mother had a strong feeling that ther is something wrong, she asked the boy how much is the price of honey he told 120 Rs per Kg .My mother asked who else in the building baught honey from you .....he happily named some & said uptill now we have sold 4-6 Kgs of honey in your building. By now my mother was too sure of her self that there is a big plot behind that because from one bee hive it is not possible to extract more than 1-2 kgs of honey , so how can they sell 4-6 Kgs of honey which they claim that they have extracted from the recently broken bee hive which was in the premises of my building.Also it is not possible to extract honey from a bee hive within half an hour.....it is a bit lenthy process..
Eventually my mother refused to buy the honey .After some time one middle age man along with the boy & a young man came to my house & asked for the utensil again saying that the last lot of honey is remaining & please buy it. My mother asked the man how much is the price of honey , he said 160 Rs per Kg .Immidiately she realized there is a differnce in the pricing too , the boy had said 120 Rs per kg & the man is saying 160 Rs. So she said ok & asked where is the honey .The man brought a big container in which there was a bee hive , some dead honey bees & dark coloured substance which he said that it is honey .She futher enquired the honey seller by asking him from which place you belong to , for a few minutes he did not reply than my mother asked him are you from Alhabad ? he replied yes .Finally she refused to buy the honey & the man started grumbling.
Later she enquired the building security guard who has been with the honey seller .The guard said that he sold more than 10 Kgs honey in the building.After hearing the guard my mother came to the conclusion that the guard was involved & he had a comission . In the evening my mother told me the whole incident & explained to me how people cheat in the name of honey .She said honey frauda are very common in Alhabad .In Alhabad people come with a big container in which there is artificially made honey & to make customer fool they keep in the container bee hives & dead bees. Infact it is not honey it is a mixture of colour ,parafin , caramalized sugar & other chemicals .She also said that smart buyers first put burning match stick i the honey & if the honey catches fire it means the honey is adultrated .
After hearing the whole incident , I felt that how smart was the honey seller who came in my building as he fooled by first asking to clsoe all the windows of the house as he will be breaking the bee hive & than asking all the residents to open the windows as he has broken the bee hive.He has made use of human Psychology in making people fool .Finally I realized that how people cheat others for money & there are so many ways of cheating .It is becoming difficult to be lucky every time by not becoming the victim of fraud people .
One fine morning my building guard along with a man came to my house , asking my mother to close all the windows of my home as the person will going to break a bee hive. She immediately asked the servant to close all the windows.After nearly half an hour a boy who was not more than 9 years came back & asked to open all the window as the bee hive was broken .So my mother asked the boy that you too break bee hives , he replied yes & asked my mother to give him a untensil so that he can bring the so called fresh honey for my family.
My mother had a strong feeling that ther is something wrong, she asked the boy how much is the price of honey he told 120 Rs per Kg .My mother asked who else in the building baught honey from you .....he happily named some & said uptill now we have sold 4-6 Kgs of honey in your building. By now my mother was too sure of her self that there is a big plot behind that because from one bee hive it is not possible to extract more than 1-2 kgs of honey , so how can they sell 4-6 Kgs of honey which they claim that they have extracted from the recently broken bee hive which was in the premises of my building.Also it is not possible to extract honey from a bee hive within half an hour.....it is a bit lenthy process..
Eventually my mother refused to buy the honey .After some time one middle age man along with the boy & a young man came to my house & asked for the utensil again saying that the last lot of honey is remaining & please buy it. My mother asked the man how much is the price of honey , he said 160 Rs per Kg .Immidiately she realized there is a differnce in the pricing too , the boy had said 120 Rs per kg & the man is saying 160 Rs. So she said ok & asked where is the honey .The man brought a big container in which there was a bee hive , some dead honey bees & dark coloured substance which he said that it is honey .She futher enquired the honey seller by asking him from which place you belong to , for a few minutes he did not reply than my mother asked him are you from Alhabad ? he replied yes .Finally she refused to buy the honey & the man started grumbling.
Later she enquired the building security guard who has been with the honey seller .The guard said that he sold more than 10 Kgs honey in the building.After hearing the guard my mother came to the conclusion that the guard was involved & he had a comission . In the evening my mother told me the whole incident & explained to me how people cheat in the name of honey .She said honey frauda are very common in Alhabad .In Alhabad people come with a big container in which there is artificially made honey & to make customer fool they keep in the container bee hives & dead bees. Infact it is not honey it is a mixture of colour ,parafin , caramalized sugar & other chemicals .She also said that smart buyers first put burning match stick i the honey & if the honey catches fire it means the honey is adultrated .
After hearing the whole incident , I felt that how smart was the honey seller who came in my building as he fooled by first asking to clsoe all the windows of the house as he will be breaking the bee hive & than asking all the residents to open the windows as he has broken the bee hive.He has made use of human Psychology in making people fool .Finally I realized that how people cheat others for money & there are so many ways of cheating .It is becoming difficult to be lucky every time by not becoming the victim of fraud people .
HOW YOU ANNOY YOUR SPOUSE
He didn’t like the curry & he didn’t like my cake.
He said my biscuits were too hard... not like his mother used to make.
I didn’t prepare the coffee right & he didn’t like the stew.
I didn’t mend his socks the way his mother used to do.
I pondered for an answer & I was looking for a cue Isn’t ‘there anything I could do to
match his mother's shoe
Then I smiled as I saw light ,one thing I could definitely do I turned around and slapped him tight..like his mother used to!!!!’
Many husbands have a habit of finding faults in their wife's work & at the same time they praise their own mother for the same . For instance husbands usually say to their wives , my mother was better than you in cooking & cleaning etc. Because of number of reasons husbands compare . It can be either because the husband misses his mother or it could be due to the husband wants to please his mother or it is also possible that the husband wants to improve his wife in particular task .What ever the reason is but wives do not like it & it is natural . If the wife keeps on praising her own father & always find mistakes in her husband & she rates her husband low in comparison to her rather than husband too will be annoyed . For eg. If a wife says to her husband that my father is better than you , he earns more than you & he used to take care of me more than you than obliviously the Husband too will be red with anger.
Personally I feel husband should never compare the two ladies & should not rate any lady low in comparison to other. As both the ladies are significant in man's life. Mother is a lady who has given him life & wife is a lady with whom he has to spend his life . If a wife is not good in cooking or any other task , she must be definitely good in some other work . The husband should never try to improve her wife in particular task by comparing her with his own mother but by praising his wife for being good in other tasks he can improve his wife in the task in which she is no so good .Even the mother should discourage his son for comparing his wife with her & rating the wife low . Although I am not married & have not faced such situation yet but still I have seen that wives never improve or change if the husbands compare with their own mother & rate them low . As the wives develop a negative attitude towards that particular task & she may say her husband that it will be better if he asks his mother only to do things for him .
However wives too should not compare & rate their husbands low in comparison to their own father. Thus do not compare & rate your spouse low in comparison to your own opposite sex parent for any reason.
He said my biscuits were too hard... not like his mother used to make.
I didn’t prepare the coffee right & he didn’t like the stew.
I didn’t mend his socks the way his mother used to do.
I pondered for an answer & I was looking for a cue Isn’t ‘there anything I could do to
match his mother's shoe
Then I smiled as I saw light ,one thing I could definitely do I turned around and slapped him tight..like his mother used to!!!!’
Many husbands have a habit of finding faults in their wife's work & at the same time they praise their own mother for the same . For instance husbands usually say to their wives , my mother was better than you in cooking & cleaning etc. Because of number of reasons husbands compare . It can be either because the husband misses his mother or it could be due to the husband wants to please his mother or it is also possible that the husband wants to improve his wife in particular task .What ever the reason is but wives do not like it & it is natural . If the wife keeps on praising her own father & always find mistakes in her husband & she rates her husband low in comparison to her rather than husband too will be annoyed . For eg. If a wife says to her husband that my father is better than you , he earns more than you & he used to take care of me more than you than obliviously the Husband too will be red with anger.
Personally I feel husband should never compare the two ladies & should not rate any lady low in comparison to other. As both the ladies are significant in man's life. Mother is a lady who has given him life & wife is a lady with whom he has to spend his life . If a wife is not good in cooking or any other task , she must be definitely good in some other work . The husband should never try to improve her wife in particular task by comparing her with his own mother but by praising his wife for being good in other tasks he can improve his wife in the task in which she is no so good .Even the mother should discourage his son for comparing his wife with her & rating the wife low . Although I am not married & have not faced such situation yet but still I have seen that wives never improve or change if the husbands compare with their own mother & rate them low . As the wives develop a negative attitude towards that particular task & she may say her husband that it will be better if he asks his mother only to do things for him .
However wives too should not compare & rate their husbands low in comparison to their own father. Thus do not compare & rate your spouse low in comparison to your own opposite sex parent for any reason.
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