' Aunt how are you ? ' , my neighbor who is approximately of my age asked me . On hearing this I felt very odd & embarrassing . You must be thinking that I must be looking very old & gray that is why she must have called me aunt but no , today it has become a trend of calling people of approximately same age as ' UNCLE , PAPA , AUNT & MUMMY ' . People think by calling others by the above mentioned words they will look young & will be able to hide their age. In fact these people do not realize that how bad a person feels when a person of same age or approximate same age address them as ' Uncle , Aunt or Papa , Mummy '.
It has been seen that women are more conscious of their age than men & therefore to hide their age or to look young , women prefer calling other women of approximate same age as Aunt or Mummy .There is nothing wrong in looking younger than one's own age but to look young does not mean that one should address people of same age with words that hurt them. At times people say that they call others as Aunt , Uncle , Papa or Mummy because they do not know the other person's age & therefore to give respect they address by such words but in reality these people are liars because if they wish they can address the other person as Brother , Sister & even better Mr. So & So or Mrs. So & So .
Recently an elderly lady bought a house in my building , her name is is Neeru. To make acquaintance she came to my house . My mother had a long conversation with the elderly lady . Mrs. Neeru told that she has grand daughter who has a 5 years old son . So we felt that she must be seventy plus but she said that she is just 75 years old. .Considering her age my mother addressed her as ' Neeru Aunty ' as she is only 57 but she immediately in harsh voice said do not call me Aunty , call me either ' Neeru ' or ' Neeru Ben ( sister ) ' . My mother apologized & said that I will call you as ' Neeru Ben ' as I am uncomfortable with just ' Neeru' . Neeru Ben & we developed a very good relations with her . She often used to come to my house & my mom used to chat for a very long time but my mother never called her ' Neeru Aunty ' even my mistake.
One fine day Neeru Ben came to my house with some snacks which she has made in her house , by chance my father who is 59 was at home . Neeru Ben started conversing with my father but as she was talking with my father she addressed him as ' PAPA ' . For the first time we thought that is was just a slip of tongue but she again called my father as ' PAPA ' & said that I am living alone in the house & you are my papa who will look after me because my grand children are away. My father felt embarrassing as he must be at least 16 years younger than Neeru Ben . Eventually my father said ' Neeru Ben every thing is fine but do not call me Papa because you are elder to me , so it will be better if you call me either by my name or as brother. However when ever Neeru Ben meets my father in the building she address him as ' PAPA ' .
This was my personal experience , you might too have come across people who are either of your age or elder to you calling you as ' Papa , Mummy or Uncle or Aunty '.According to me the only way to this problem is to address such people as ' Aunty , Uncle ' before they are able to address you as ' Papa , Uncle . Mummy or Aunty ' . Than only will realize how bad a person feels from within.
NANA NANI PARK OR ROMANCE CENTRE
Public family parks and gardens occupied by lovers is a issue which is highlighted every now and than by News Channels in India. In most of the urban areas in India the public parks , gardens and beaches developed for family recreation are occupied by romantic unmarried or newly married couples. Well it is not wrong if lovers use the public parks and gardens for recreational activities but the problem arises when the lovers are unable to control their emotions & as a result of which they freely hug , kiss & do things which make other visitors in park feel uncomfortable when they are with their family or friends.
In cities because of huge residential & commercial buildings , factories , shopping malls , hospitals & other work places there is very limited open spaces left for people to move about freely & to breathe fresh air . Therefore public parks & gardens are must for the people of urban areas . Also people have small congested houses in cities & thus it is necessary from fitness part to use public parks & gardens. However because the parks & gardens are occupied by romantic couples , people who use parks for jogging , exercising or for yoga or elderly people who in search of peace , feel uneasy when they find lovers engaged in socially undesirable activities . Parents who go to public parks & gardens with their young children also feel uneasy.
Now the question is , why lovers prefer gardens & parks ? According to Psychologists , young couples who are in love unconsciously starts liking greenery , flowers , tree , birds , butterflies etc. So they find parks & gardens very comfortable & soothing. However the romantic couples fail to realize that their behaviors ( kissing , hugging etc ) in public places make other visitors in park or garden uncomfortable & people feel more stressful by visiting the parks or gardens. As there are no laws pertaining to lovers in public parks or gardens or beaches , people visiting the parks with their family or friends find ignoring as the best solution to this problem. In my locality there was a public garden at Breech Candy . Since lovers occupied it people stopped going there with their families & so young parents either have to take their children to some shopping mall or to some neighbors house for recreation.
Ignoring this issue by people has lead to the mounting of number of romantic couples in public gardens & parks. However the problem can be solved by following ways.
1 ) The local government or some Non-governmental organizations should develop parks or gardens exclusively for lovers.
2) Timing the existing public parks & gardens . For instance - the park will be open only for joggers , elderly people , children between 5.00am to 10.00 am . Than the park will be open only for romantic couples between 10.00am to 2.00 pm . Between 2.00pm to 4.00 pm the park will be closed & again the park will be open only for children , senior citizens , joggers between 4.00pm to 7.00pm.
3) A third way out is penalizing couples who will be seen engaged in socially undesirable activities with their partners in public parks & gardens.
However according to me the second way out is more feasible & easy to adapt. Thus in a nut shell , NANA NANI PARKS TURNING TO LOVERS PARKS is a serious issue as in urban areas public parks & gardens are important places for senior citizens & children for recreation.
In cities because of huge residential & commercial buildings , factories , shopping malls , hospitals & other work places there is very limited open spaces left for people to move about freely & to breathe fresh air . Therefore public parks & gardens are must for the people of urban areas . Also people have small congested houses in cities & thus it is necessary from fitness part to use public parks & gardens. However because the parks & gardens are occupied by romantic couples , people who use parks for jogging , exercising or for yoga or elderly people who in search of peace , feel uneasy when they find lovers engaged in socially undesirable activities . Parents who go to public parks & gardens with their young children also feel uneasy.
Now the question is , why lovers prefer gardens & parks ? According to Psychologists , young couples who are in love unconsciously starts liking greenery , flowers , tree , birds , butterflies etc. So they find parks & gardens very comfortable & soothing. However the romantic couples fail to realize that their behaviors ( kissing , hugging etc ) in public places make other visitors in park or garden uncomfortable & people feel more stressful by visiting the parks or gardens. As there are no laws pertaining to lovers in public parks or gardens or beaches , people visiting the parks with their family or friends find ignoring as the best solution to this problem. In my locality there was a public garden at Breech Candy . Since lovers occupied it people stopped going there with their families & so young parents either have to take their children to some shopping mall or to some neighbors house for recreation.
Ignoring this issue by people has lead to the mounting of number of romantic couples in public gardens & parks. However the problem can be solved by following ways.
1 ) The local government or some Non-governmental organizations should develop parks or gardens exclusively for lovers.
2) Timing the existing public parks & gardens . For instance - the park will be open only for joggers , elderly people , children between 5.00am to 10.00 am . Than the park will be open only for romantic couples between 10.00am to 2.00 pm . Between 2.00pm to 4.00 pm the park will be closed & again the park will be open only for children , senior citizens , joggers between 4.00pm to 7.00pm.
3) A third way out is penalizing couples who will be seen engaged in socially undesirable activities with their partners in public parks & gardens.
However according to me the second way out is more feasible & easy to adapt. Thus in a nut shell , NANA NANI PARKS TURNING TO LOVERS PARKS is a serious issue as in urban areas public parks & gardens are important places for senior citizens & children for recreation.
THINK TWICE BEFORE PLAYING A PRANK
We all play pranks on other people either for fun or under peer pressure or some times to harass some one or in innocence but not with the intention to hurt some one. However at times pranks become deadly & it becomes an offense.
In recent past one of my cousin's eye lid was wounded because of a prank played by his younger brother.My 16 year old cousin Vaibhav has a passion for bathing soaps . He used to change his bathing soap daily. He loves soaps with good fragrance & so he uses the soap once or twice & than he used to keep the soap on the wash basin for cleaning hands. Vaibhav never used to allow Vinay his younger brother to bath with his new soap first , he did not allow him even to touch the new soap . Vaibhav as usual bought a new soap & he kept that soap as it is in his cupboard.he did not took bath with it for some days. Vinay just for fun took a iron pin which did not had head & inserted that pin in Vaibhav's new soap. Vinay wrapped the soap & kept it back in Vaibhav's cupboard. Unfortunately Vaibhav the following day took that soap out of his cupboard & remove the wrapper of the soap & took it for bath.He started bathing with the soap & made lot of lather with the soap . Vaibhav was enjoying his bath but when he rubbed the soap on his face , the pointed iron pin pricked Vaibhav's eyelid. His eyelid started bleeding . Vaibhav screamed loudly. He immediately washed his face with water & when he opened his eyes he saw the pointed edge of the pin in the soap. His eyelid was still bleeding . Vaibhav came running out of wash room & started crying. His mother took him to doctor for the Tetanus injection. When Vaibhav came back , Vinay too had come back from school . My aunty ( Vaibhav's mother ) told how Vinay got hurt from the bathing soap. Looking at Vaibhav's eye , Vinay felt sorry. He busted into tears & apologize for his mischief.He honestly told that he has inserted the pin in the soap of Vaibhav. My aunty scolded Vinay & told him that if Vaibhav eyes were open while rubbing the soap on his face than Vaibhav might have lost his eye.
In another case, my friend Raksha thought to play a prank on his old maternal aunt.When her aunt was sleeping on the bed , she quietly placed a plastic , artificial lizard on the bed. When her aunty woke up , no sooner she saw the lizard on the bed , she screamed & jumped from the bed & as she tried to escape she lost her balance as the foot mat slipped . The poor old lady fell on the floor & broke her right hand wrist bone. Thus do not play prank without thinking , for you it might be a fun but for other it can be deadly. Also before playing a prank think how will you react if some body else will play a same prank on you ?
In recent past one of my cousin's eye lid was wounded because of a prank played by his younger brother.My 16 year old cousin Vaibhav has a passion for bathing soaps . He used to change his bathing soap daily. He loves soaps with good fragrance & so he uses the soap once or twice & than he used to keep the soap on the wash basin for cleaning hands. Vaibhav never used to allow Vinay his younger brother to bath with his new soap first , he did not allow him even to touch the new soap . Vaibhav as usual bought a new soap & he kept that soap as it is in his cupboard.he did not took bath with it for some days. Vinay just for fun took a iron pin which did not had head & inserted that pin in Vaibhav's new soap. Vinay wrapped the soap & kept it back in Vaibhav's cupboard. Unfortunately Vaibhav the following day took that soap out of his cupboard & remove the wrapper of the soap & took it for bath.He started bathing with the soap & made lot of lather with the soap . Vaibhav was enjoying his bath but when he rubbed the soap on his face , the pointed iron pin pricked Vaibhav's eyelid. His eyelid started bleeding . Vaibhav screamed loudly. He immediately washed his face with water & when he opened his eyes he saw the pointed edge of the pin in the soap. His eyelid was still bleeding . Vaibhav came running out of wash room & started crying. His mother took him to doctor for the Tetanus injection. When Vaibhav came back , Vinay too had come back from school . My aunty ( Vaibhav's mother ) told how Vinay got hurt from the bathing soap. Looking at Vaibhav's eye , Vinay felt sorry. He busted into tears & apologize for his mischief.He honestly told that he has inserted the pin in the soap of Vaibhav. My aunty scolded Vinay & told him that if Vaibhav eyes were open while rubbing the soap on his face than Vaibhav might have lost his eye.
In another case, my friend Raksha thought to play a prank on his old maternal aunt.When her aunt was sleeping on the bed , she quietly placed a plastic , artificial lizard on the bed. When her aunty woke up , no sooner she saw the lizard on the bed , she screamed & jumped from the bed & as she tried to escape she lost her balance as the foot mat slipped . The poor old lady fell on the floor & broke her right hand wrist bone. Thus do not play prank without thinking , for you it might be a fun but for other it can be deadly. Also before playing a prank think how will you react if some body else will play a same prank on you ?
MISCONCEPTIONS WITH AVTAAR PIC
There is a boom of blogs on internet .In fact blogging has become a big business, there are several websites which pay good amount for blogging. In the process the websites earn through the advertisement they get. Depending upon the viewer ship of blogs & /or number of comments or the ratings & sometimes on the number of referrals , bloggers are paid by these websites. Generally female bloggers are luckier than male bloggers in getting more comments , ratings & referrals. Due to this fact at times male bloggers in order to improve the viewer ship of their blog prefer to be identified as woman. So they keep their display image & name of a woman .
In the above context , I remembered a funny incident which happened recently with my friend Vishal. My friend Vishal was blogging on a popular website named IBIBO . IBIBO was paying top 1000 bloggers every month some 3-4 months back. Keeping in mind that woman bloggers get better response in blogging , Vishal kept his display image of a woman & also his display name as ' CUTE BABE ' . Some male bloggers thinking that my friend was a young female , started commenting & rating his articles regularly. As Vishal used to write well the male bloggers developed interest in reading his articles. As time passed one of the male bloggers named RAJAT developed an attraction for my friend Vishal. Rajat started giving very personal comments which indicated that Rajat was falling in love with my friend Vishal. I used to read Vishal's articles regularly & therefore I used to come across Rajat's comment too. Initially I thought that it might be Rajat's way of appreciating Vishal's articles but later with some other Rajat's comment on Vishal's articles , I realized Rajat was imagining Vishal as a beautiful young woman. Rajat in one of his comments even proposed Vishal.
I felt that Rajat has been deeply attached with Vishal. So I suggested Vishal, to clear Rajat that he is not a female but Vishal said that he does not want to lose his viewer ship & a his fan. Vishal said that I have not asked Rajat to comment nor I am in any kind of personal communication with him. As Viashal & I are good friends , Vishal promised me that as soon as the blogging round will be over , he will change his display image & name. Rajat kept on commenting on Vishal's articles & he used to ask regularly Vishal for his email ID & mobile number. One day in his comments , Rajat wrote that he was imagining my friend Vishal in swimming costume. When Vishal & I read this we laughed like anything. Our cheeks were red & our stomach started paining badly. That day we decided that we should not hurt Rjat's feelings & so it is better to clear Rajat's misconception of Vishal being a female . Vishal immediately changed his display pic & he kept his own pic on display . Also he changed the display name from " CUTE BABE " TO " VISHAL " . We were waiting for Rajat's response & for few days he did not comment on Vishal's articles. However after some days he left a comment saying that he made a big mistake in his life & he is broken totally from within.
In my opinion it is good to read blogs on net but it is my advice do not be personal with any blogger & also do not go with the picture in the avtaar & the display name .As the name & pic may not be of the blogger or writer . Thus read the articles & blog with the aim of improving intellect .
In the above context , I remembered a funny incident which happened recently with my friend Vishal. My friend Vishal was blogging on a popular website named IBIBO . IBIBO was paying top 1000 bloggers every month some 3-4 months back. Keeping in mind that woman bloggers get better response in blogging , Vishal kept his display image of a woman & also his display name as ' CUTE BABE ' . Some male bloggers thinking that my friend was a young female , started commenting & rating his articles regularly. As Vishal used to write well the male bloggers developed interest in reading his articles. As time passed one of the male bloggers named RAJAT developed an attraction for my friend Vishal. Rajat started giving very personal comments which indicated that Rajat was falling in love with my friend Vishal. I used to read Vishal's articles regularly & therefore I used to come across Rajat's comment too. Initially I thought that it might be Rajat's way of appreciating Vishal's articles but later with some other Rajat's comment on Vishal's articles , I realized Rajat was imagining Vishal as a beautiful young woman. Rajat in one of his comments even proposed Vishal.
I felt that Rajat has been deeply attached with Vishal. So I suggested Vishal, to clear Rajat that he is not a female but Vishal said that he does not want to lose his viewer ship & a his fan. Vishal said that I have not asked Rajat to comment nor I am in any kind of personal communication with him. As Viashal & I are good friends , Vishal promised me that as soon as the blogging round will be over , he will change his display image & name. Rajat kept on commenting on Vishal's articles & he used to ask regularly Vishal for his email ID & mobile number. One day in his comments , Rajat wrote that he was imagining my friend Vishal in swimming costume. When Vishal & I read this we laughed like anything. Our cheeks were red & our stomach started paining badly. That day we decided that we should not hurt Rjat's feelings & so it is better to clear Rajat's misconception of Vishal being a female . Vishal immediately changed his display pic & he kept his own pic on display . Also he changed the display name from " CUTE BABE " TO " VISHAL " . We were waiting for Rajat's response & for few days he did not comment on Vishal's articles. However after some days he left a comment saying that he made a big mistake in his life & he is broken totally from within.
In my opinion it is good to read blogs on net but it is my advice do not be personal with any blogger & also do not go with the picture in the avtaar & the display name .As the name & pic may not be of the blogger or writer . Thus read the articles & blog with the aim of improving intellect .
STYLES OF LEADERSHIP
In a lay man’s definition a leader is a person who leads ,who knows the way , who shows the way& who walks the talk. Every social group has a leader within a family of four a father or a mother can be a leader. In a class a monitor is a leader . However every leader has his own style of leading the group.
Most of us are aware of two styles of leadership namely AUTOCRATIC & DEMOCRATIC .However Autocratic & Democratic are two extreme styles of leadership , there are several other styles of leadership which are combination of Autocratic & Democratic leadership .
1) AUTOCRATIC STYLE :- Autocratic style of leadership is also know as DIRECTIVE STYLE OF LEADERSHIP .An Autocratic leader makes all decisions by himself or herself & expects the whole group to follow his decisions . If any body questions or does not obey than the autocratic leader uses all kinds of negative techniques to ensure that his decisions are followed by every one . Generally under Autocratic leaders the group remains unhappy . However Autocratic leadership is required when the group has unskilled members or the members are highly indisciplined or during emergency situations like fire , storm etc.Autocratic leaders are further classified as
A) HARD BOILED AUTOCRAT :- This type of Autocratic leaders believe that they are the best & only Autocratic style of leadership can get things done from people .
B) BENVOLENT AUTOCRAT :- This type of Autocratic leaders are kind hearted & therefore uses positive techniques to make the group follow his decisions . For instance they may give leaves to employee .
C) MANIPULATIVE AUTOCRAT:-This type of Autocratic leaders are very dangerous as they will ask the group for their suggestions but at the end they will ask the whole group to follow what is already decided by the leader himself .
2) BUREAUCRATIC STYLE :- Bureaucrat leader is said to lead by the books ( BOOKS OF RULES )Such leaders sticks to the book of rules & procedures . They neither make decision by self nor he allows his subordinates to make decision .
3) FREE REIN OR LAISSEZ FAIRE :-The leader expects group to make decision ie leaves completely on the subordinates .Creative people work best under Free rein style of leadership. However there will be chaos in case of inexperienced & uneducated people .
4) PATERNALISTIC STYLE :-Is the style where the leader takes the role of FATHER FIGURE & treats the employee as his own children & all the employees perceive the business as family business . In return leader expects obedience ,respect , loyalty from the employees . However trade Unions has affected PATERNALISTIC STYLE OF LEADERSHIP .
5) DEMOCRATIC STYLE :- A democratic leader is one who allows the group to participate in the decision making process . The final decision has the elements of everybody’s suggestions . The group under democratic leader show lot on initiative .
Each of us lead the group in a different way &also each of us are member of various social groups therefore we should be aware of the different styles of leadership & the advantages & disadvantages of each style of leadership.
Most of us are aware of two styles of leadership namely AUTOCRATIC & DEMOCRATIC .However Autocratic & Democratic are two extreme styles of leadership , there are several other styles of leadership which are combination of Autocratic & Democratic leadership .
1) AUTOCRATIC STYLE :- Autocratic style of leadership is also know as DIRECTIVE STYLE OF LEADERSHIP .An Autocratic leader makes all decisions by himself or herself & expects the whole group to follow his decisions . If any body questions or does not obey than the autocratic leader uses all kinds of negative techniques to ensure that his decisions are followed by every one . Generally under Autocratic leaders the group remains unhappy . However Autocratic leadership is required when the group has unskilled members or the members are highly indisciplined or during emergency situations like fire , storm etc.Autocratic leaders are further classified as
A) HARD BOILED AUTOCRAT :- This type of Autocratic leaders believe that they are the best & only Autocratic style of leadership can get things done from people .
B) BENVOLENT AUTOCRAT :- This type of Autocratic leaders are kind hearted & therefore uses positive techniques to make the group follow his decisions . For instance they may give leaves to employee .
C) MANIPULATIVE AUTOCRAT:-This type of Autocratic leaders are very dangerous as they will ask the group for their suggestions but at the end they will ask the whole group to follow what is already decided by the leader himself .
2) BUREAUCRATIC STYLE :- Bureaucrat leader is said to lead by the books ( BOOKS OF RULES )Such leaders sticks to the book of rules & procedures . They neither make decision by self nor he allows his subordinates to make decision .
3) FREE REIN OR LAISSEZ FAIRE :-The leader expects group to make decision ie leaves completely on the subordinates .Creative people work best under Free rein style of leadership. However there will be chaos in case of inexperienced & uneducated people .
4) PATERNALISTIC STYLE :-Is the style where the leader takes the role of FATHER FIGURE & treats the employee as his own children & all the employees perceive the business as family business . In return leader expects obedience ,respect , loyalty from the employees . However trade Unions has affected PATERNALISTIC STYLE OF LEADERSHIP .
5) DEMOCRATIC STYLE :- A democratic leader is one who allows the group to participate in the decision making process . The final decision has the elements of everybody’s suggestions . The group under democratic leader show lot on initiative .
Each of us lead the group in a different way &also each of us are member of various social groups therefore we should be aware of the different styles of leadership & the advantages & disadvantages of each style of leadership.
CLASSICAL CONDITIONING
Even before a Doctor injects the needle we start shouting with pain or starts shivering. Also when we just see or hear about our favorite sweet dish we start salivating. All this happens due to a Psychological Phenomenon known as CLASSICAL CONDITIONING. CLASSICAL CONDITIONING is also known as PAVLOVIAN CONDITIONING. Classical Conditioning is defined as AUTOMATIC RESPONSE TO A SITUATION BUILT UP THROUGH REPEATED EXPOSURE.
Russian Psychologist, IVAN PAVLOV was the first to explain CLASSICAL CONDITIONING by performing an experiment on hungry dog’s .In his experiment his team used to ring a bell & immediately after ringing the bell, Ivan Pavlov applied meat paste on the tongue of hungry salivating dogs. He repeated the procedure of ringing bell & applying meat paste several times as a result of which after few repetitions the dogs start salivating when they heard the sound of ringing bell even though the dogs were not hungry.
When Psychologist Ivan Pavlov started his experiment the dogs salivated when they were hungry but later the dogs started salivating when they heard the sound of the bell . This happened because the dogs associated the sound of bell with the application of meat paste on the tongue. Similarly most of us with repeated past experiences have associated the injection with pain therefore even before the doctor injects needle we start screaming or shivering.
Russian Psychologist, IVAN PAVLOV was the first to explain CLASSICAL CONDITIONING by performing an experiment on hungry dog’s .In his experiment his team used to ring a bell & immediately after ringing the bell, Ivan Pavlov applied meat paste on the tongue of hungry salivating dogs. He repeated the procedure of ringing bell & applying meat paste several times as a result of which after few repetitions the dogs start salivating when they heard the sound of ringing bell even though the dogs were not hungry.
When Psychologist Ivan Pavlov started his experiment the dogs salivated when they were hungry but later the dogs started salivating when they heard the sound of the bell . This happened because the dogs associated the sound of bell with the application of meat paste on the tongue. Similarly most of us with repeated past experiences have associated the injection with pain therefore even before the doctor injects needle we start screaming or shivering.
SOCIAL FACILITATION
Have you ever noticed the following?
-You finish faster mindless task like washing clothes, dishes etc when somebody is near by you.
- You perform well tasks, in which you have gained expertise when some one is near by you.
- You find difficulties in accomplishing a work or a job like writing an essay or poem or any other complicated work in presence of another person.
If you have experienced the above in your life than you must have thought that why it happens? & does it happen with every one. So let me answer today your queries. It happens with all of us & it occurs due to a psychological phenomenon known as SOCIAL FACILITATION. SOCIAL FACILITATION is defined as A TENDENCY TO DO BETTER ON EASY TASKS & WORSE ON DIFFICULT TASKS WHEN ANOTHER PERSON IS NEAR BY. Studies have shown that presence of another person have an important influence on performance.
It is very important for each one of us to understand SOCIAL FACILITATION because it affects our judgment about other individual’s abilities. To elicit on this I am sharing with you my own life experience that how because of presence of another person my performance was affected & because of this the other person judged me wrong.
Few years back I joined a Hair styling & Dressing course. Unfortunately I joined late so I missed 3 months course. As a consequence I was weak in comparison to other students. Also the teacher Mrs. Aasha Raza did not give me any special attention .Therefore I was not as good as other fellow students in making hair styles. One day Mrs. Aasha asked all the students to make hair styles on each other’s heads. I was asked to make French Plat. As I was doing my work quietly, the teacher came & stood by me. As a consequence I was nervous & was unable to make the hair style as good as others. Mrs. Aasha scolded me & said that my finger movements are not proper & she strongly thinks that I even do not know how to knead a dough. So I should join her cooking classes too .Mrs. Raza was absolutely wrong in saying that I do not know how to knead a dough because I am good in making dough & preparing different types of Parathas , Puris etc.
The above incident happened because Mrs. Raza did not realize that her presence made me nervous & as a result I was not able to make the hair style properly & so she judged me wrongly. Thus you should understand that your presence can make another person perform well if he is doing a task in which one does not require much skill or the person is engaged in a task in which he or she has been trained perfectly. On the other hand your presence can make the other person do worst if he or she is doing a complicated work or work in which is not trained well.
-You finish faster mindless task like washing clothes, dishes etc when somebody is near by you.
- You perform well tasks, in which you have gained expertise when some one is near by you.
- You find difficulties in accomplishing a work or a job like writing an essay or poem or any other complicated work in presence of another person.
If you have experienced the above in your life than you must have thought that why it happens? & does it happen with every one. So let me answer today your queries. It happens with all of us & it occurs due to a psychological phenomenon known as SOCIAL FACILITATION. SOCIAL FACILITATION is defined as A TENDENCY TO DO BETTER ON EASY TASKS & WORSE ON DIFFICULT TASKS WHEN ANOTHER PERSON IS NEAR BY. Studies have shown that presence of another person have an important influence on performance.
It is very important for each one of us to understand SOCIAL FACILITATION because it affects our judgment about other individual’s abilities. To elicit on this I am sharing with you my own life experience that how because of presence of another person my performance was affected & because of this the other person judged me wrong.
Few years back I joined a Hair styling & Dressing course. Unfortunately I joined late so I missed 3 months course. As a consequence I was weak in comparison to other students. Also the teacher Mrs. Aasha Raza did not give me any special attention .Therefore I was not as good as other fellow students in making hair styles. One day Mrs. Aasha asked all the students to make hair styles on each other’s heads. I was asked to make French Plat. As I was doing my work quietly, the teacher came & stood by me. As a consequence I was nervous & was unable to make the hair style as good as others. Mrs. Aasha scolded me & said that my finger movements are not proper & she strongly thinks that I even do not know how to knead a dough. So I should join her cooking classes too .Mrs. Raza was absolutely wrong in saying that I do not know how to knead a dough because I am good in making dough & preparing different types of Parathas , Puris etc.
The above incident happened because Mrs. Raza did not realize that her presence made me nervous & as a result I was not able to make the hair style properly & so she judged me wrongly. Thus you should understand that your presence can make another person perform well if he is doing a task in which one does not require much skill or the person is engaged in a task in which he or she has been trained perfectly. On the other hand your presence can make the other person do worst if he or she is doing a complicated work or work in which is not trained well.
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